I lost a few pounds four weeks ago. Yep, after nearly three years with two cell phones, I downsized to one. Bye-bye iPhone.
At first I felt naked. My back pocket was missing it’s close companion. It was so … so … empty. Like sweet friends who moved away, I missed my apps. After all, I’d invested a lot of time into developing our relationship: Twitterific, Facebook, iWeather, Sudoku, Dictionary, WordPress. Now I had no one to share a couch and cuppa in Starbucks. Not to mention I hardly know how to dress for the day anymore: Is it going to be cold? Hot? Rainy? I can’t remember what I did before my phone did it all for me.
After a week of nakedness, I went to the Verizon store (love Verizon) to see about upgrading my three-year-old-hand-me-down phone into something more interactive. And shiny. I looked at the Storm, the Tour, and even asked about soon-to-be-released, latest-and-greatest phones. So many possibilities! All new, sleek and fast. Each included a web browser, email, and downloadable apps including (wait for it) … weather updates. It was all so exciting.
And I turned around and walked right out that store.
What? Why did I leave without moving back up the phone chain? Because, I realized I actually enjoyed the QUIET.
Freedom from the constant alerts and messages. Freedom from the never-ending flow of emails to my phone. Freedom from feeling like I’m missing out on the global conversation if I don’t check in with Twitter every twelve-and-a-half minutes. Without the world at my fingertips, I could share dinner with a friend and be fully present. I could watch a game with my hubs without the interruption of message alerts. Absent was the pressure to check in with my apps, the competition for my undivided attention.
I am iPhone free. And I like it.
Connection doesn’t equal relationship.
Did you hear that? CONNECTION DOESN’T EQUAL RELATIONSHIP. You can connect all you want and still boast only superficial relationships. Relationship require something of us. And though cool phones with fabulous apps make connection easier than ever before, authentic relationship still requires the same old formula: Mutual desire + Intentionality + Hard work.
I believe shedding a few pounds has enriched my relationships. That means, for now, I’m loving the slimmer me.
Is there anything you need to lose in order to gain deeper connection?