May 17, 2010

Being a mom is like being a 24/7 bodyguard.

From the moment I became a mother, I’ve been charged with protecting my children.

I removed all objects from the crib. Put them to sleep on their back instead of their stomach. I boiled bottles and scheduled immunizations. Safety latches were installed on kitchen cabinets and all cleaning supplies found a new home up high. I plugged all the outlets with covers, put gates around the stairs, and installed locks on all the windows. For years my boys didn’t swim at the pool without my watchful eye. Even bath time included my watchful eye. I cut their food into minuscule pieces and distributed daily vitamins. When it rained at a ball game or school picnic, I wrapped my arms around tiny shoulders, absorbing the cold so they didn’t suffer.

Though we lived only two blocks from their elementary school, I walked them to and from every day, because you never know when a predator could be lurking. I advocated with teachers, volunteered in the classroom, sent them to school with healthy sack lunches and surprised them with impromptu lunch dates in the school cafeteria. I listened for neighborhood bullying, intervening when necessary. Dental checkups and physicals were scheduled every six months and twelve months, respectively. I reviewed homework, enforced a decent bed time, applied Neosporin, took temperatures with a cheek and thermometer, shared difficult conversations about sex and drug use. I purchased safety equipment when they signed up for football and roller hockey and baseball and skating competitions. And then rushed them to the doctor when said safety equipment didn’t prevent an injury.

In spite of rolling eyes, I initiated discussions on integrity, choosing friends carefully and the importance of hard work. At times I meted out consequences in an effort to protect them from future consequences far worse than a day or two without XBox. I taught them to drive, to waterski, to make a bed, scramble eggs, pick up after themselves, slice an apple without slicing their fingers, write thank you notes, say “I love you” even when angry, and to share their toys.

For a long time it’s been my job to protect my children, to buy them time to grow up and learn how to thrive on their own. This is what has consumed my life for more than a decade. This is what I dreamed of in the decades before I held my first boy in my arms. And this is what makes my next chapter of mothering the most difficult part:

The releasing.

For a lifetime I’ve held. Now I have to let go.

(pic by lenscap, stock.xchng)


  1. Robbie Iobst

    Keep breathing, Michele. I have yet to be in the position you find yourself in but I feel your struggle and the tears beneath the words. Faith is often described as jumping off a cliff knowing that God will catch you. I think even greater faith is letting go so your child can do the same. Take care of your tender heart, friend. These days it needs extra care.

    • Michele Cushatt

      "I think even greater faith is letting go so your child can do the same …" Well said, and I couldn't agree more.


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Download a Preview of Michele's New Book,
A Faith that Will Not Fail

A Faith that Will Not Fail is available to order. Get a free preview of the book by filling out the form below.

Thank you! I am excited to have you on board.

Get the Video Series in Your Inbox

You'll receive one video in your inbox for 7 days.  

Done! Check your email to confirm.

Get the 7-Day Video Series Delivered to YourEmail

You will receive one video per day for seven consecutive days.

Great! Check your email to confirm.

Let's Stick Together

 By subscribing you are agreeing to receive Michele's occasional blog posts, videos and newsletters in your email. Subscribers get exclusive access to her free premium resources.

Yay! Thank you! I am excited to have you on board.

Skip to content